Female baby boomers are well into menopause - and beyond; part of a giant wave of gray (even if the grey was somewhat stained).
One might think that this generation of women, teenagers of the 1960 en route to their 60 years, the so-called "liberation" generation, the daughters of Woodstock, the driver of modern feminism, would have an original attitude to sexuality as they engage the challenges of aging today. Actually, in general, they did not!
There are more women over the age of 50 in the world today than probably ever in the history of the world, 45 million American women born in the years of baby boomers are now making the critical menopausal transition, Kingdom United Kingdom and 11 million women. Overall, the age distribution in the category of older people is increasing in all of the more developed countries.
Although this huge wave of women's empowerment are more assured and economic resources than any other generation before and can expect a reasonable lifetime, and quality of life, but there is also a faltering and wilting.
In the same generation, who have "benefited" from the extreme youth of the sixties focus simply are not sure how to age these days. The issue of an aging female sexuality is full of old psychological shadows and it haunts women baby boomers today. The old stereotypes are not going to be, and new prototypes are not there yet.
"Our sexual appetite is not lost as we age, it is the image of ourselves that we have scrupulously sexual abandon to fit the stereotype of yesteryear regimented patriarchy that the gender of the woman to take account of the structure economic power ... and keep men in the shoulder Wheel of Commerce and woman prodigious sexual potency limited to motherhood, "explains Nancy Friday, author of the book My mother, myself ..
We are terrified of becoming old ugly hags. The Hagia word, which means "sacred" in Greek, was once a reverential title for wise and respected older women, it gradient "witch". How did venerable and sacred come to mean old and ugly?
The historical images that have stereotyped postmenopausal women are terrible and insidious. They infect our culture - and profoundly affect our own self-evaluations.
In 16th and 17th century Europe, postmenopausal women are witches, defined as satanic and sexual diabolically. In the 18th and 19th centuries, they were either pathetic or idealized old girls aging grandmothers - just, virtuous - and totally asexual. (Sexuality is contained in the marriage and only linked to procreation.)
In the first half of the 20th century, after menopause was considered a dangerous age filled with melancholy, "climacteric folly'', and" remnants of infantility. Sex after menopause was considered by medical definition pathological and neurotic Freudian by definition. Apart from being a grandmother chicken, life as she knew almost complete.
It menopause miserable environment in which baby boomers were born. Then, the doctors took over and menopause, life and thereafter was completely medicalized. Ménopausées and postmenopausal women have formed a group of customers perfect for the medical profession increasingly - many, large finance, and vague symptoms. At least sex was now considered "normal" if there was any interest, but there was no more thorough evaluation of what it might mean.
So it is not for nothing that women baby boomers are a bit confused - both in terms of age and sex. What happens to the baby-boomer women as they meet their 50 years?
Somewhere along the continuum of menopause, there is an agreement or reconciliation with all that has been done so far or sweating. Émotionnellement there is a kind of acceptance and a feeling of being more authentically themselves, as best as possible, this time, however, contented or people are dissatisfied with their lives to this above the point of midterm . The question around sexuality is trapped in the individual life stories and old views. It is more concerned about the financial security.
Many people around physical well-being, health and fitness. Of course, at menopause hit, people live with the consequences of a life of stress, poor nutrition, life lasts, the more profound cultural expectations around older who have had an impact on their bodies. The partners have died, become ill or have lost interest.
Only there now talking about books around the soul (as well as medical science) of menopause, where thoughts, intentions and our spirituality determine a different response equipment. There is also the rapid developments in science nutrition and the fight against aging welfare, which create more options. Where everything disintegrates into disease and fragility, sexuality lingers with the force of life itself. A little luck and the right attitude also makes a difference.
Discussions with women of the baby boom reflected a remarkable kind of evasive, as people defend the position where they are being carved into. "When people reach our age, what can we learn?" There are those bold and passionate Lolitas in their 50s who love sex, love and seduction and was now coming face to face with the old double standard of older women with younger men.
Some baby-boomer women do not expect to be seen as sexy but are proud to be living from a genuine centre, with or without sex. Some who are unmarried see sexuality as spiritual, but in sublimated and expressed through art, home, loving family pets. Or they get into religion and / or spirituality or charities.
All agree that you can enjoy a "roll in the hay when you are over 60 years, but on the whole sex with a partner. There is a fundamental confusion between being sexually active and erotic, sexual spiritual awareness.
For many his age, but not about the situation, having a partner is the key. It is regarded as something normal, fun, and if you are the right person dating, married (and may still do so), or in a committed relationship. Others speak of consenting sex with a friend, who for some reason you do not want a "relationship" with, but willing to occasionally safe sex.
Others just give up. Mary, a divorcee in her mid 50, had spent several years as unsatisfactory promiscuity, she went through a difficult divorce. When she became a grandmother, she literally closed and focused entirely on his new role ..
The media support the idea that grannies are genderless. Whenever we are presented with an old couple engaged in sexual intimacy, it is almost always as comedy. Why should be aged sex (uncomfortably) funny?
Women who have studied Tantra and Taoism have a concept of sanctity of sexuality that is ageless. But these older systems are now available in the West during the nineties, so that their profound lessons are always integrated and adapted to our lives.
The key is that the whole understanding of sexuality and erotic needs to be deepened and our staff wounds must be healed. Midlife is a very good time to do so.
But most women work in exactly the same set of memories, thoughts and feelings which lasted throughout their sex lives. Everybody has an operational point of view on sex: sex for reproduction, fun and pleasure, a sin, a necessity and a duty, for love or friendship. Sexuality, they talk about sexuality is the same of their youth and adulthood, a former mental sexuality informed by the thoughts and attitudes that have not authorized and brought to the conscience and feelings they have not integrated.
Now, post-menopause, there is not a strong enough intellectual and psychological framework for another more sensual and maintaining order - sex as something metaphysical, religious, spiritual, energetic.
Many women talk about boomers becoming crone, but where do we find the wisdom of the crone? And who said the crone is asexual?
There is a psychological resistance to the integration of what Dr Rachel Hillel calls the exile of "sacred-erotic sensual powers" in Ancient female in the unconscious. It calls for the redemption of the soul female erotic in a book of the same name. in which she describes how our full understanding and a natural expression of sexuality is fundamental to creating a genuine female identity. "erotic content-sensuous female psychic" saints "she said .
Maybe the hard truth is that the sexual revolution of the 1960's has not kept its promises of genuine liberation because it offered a reversed version of a prototype male - assertive, goal-oriented, manipulative. It might have been free, but it has no soul and no female sensibility.
What would a women's liberation is aging and the aging of sexuality?
It seems that it is a challenge for those who are baby boomers does not grow in a retirement asexual?.
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